It’s the Little Things…

I am finding that the little things I do to help me stay happy are so incredibly important for my mental health.

My goal today is to set specific days and times to write something. Anything. Whether it be a blog post (short or long) or a little blurb in one of my many writing journals. I may even be okay with writing something creative on my phone notes! This is part of my little self-help I’m giving myself in order to keep me grounded.

With all the stress that comes with my job, helping my sister stay focused in school, and paying bills, yet trying to have fun, I’ve decided that anything I can do, small or big, to keep me and the people around me happy.

Wanna know what I’ve done so far?

1. I’m prepping to make little finals “survival” kits for my sister’s cohort. Their finals begins today, and I really hope they do well and be successful! These are our future doctors. We should mālama them. I got them some stress relief/fidget toys off of Amazon (just something small to mess around with while studying or feeling extra stressed). My work donated some of our promo items, like hand sanitizers and stress balls as well. I’ll put some snacks, candies, and homemade no-bake energy bars!

2. I set up both a reading and writing schedule today! What I have down is every Tuesday at 10-10:30PM and Saturday at 9-10AM I have set aside time to write. (Look forward to that!) My reading schedule is every Thursday at 9:30-10:30PM and Sundays at 9-10AM. I’m excited to start reading again. I feel like I needed to set a schedule to make sure I do it. It’s kinda like taking a class, it’s set every week for whatever date and time. I hope I don’t miss any!!!

3. I have resorted to putting stress relief items on my work desk. I have a couple of pictures up of my siblings and my husband. I have a small diffuser set up. I also have my stress relief sprays and smells from bath & body works. Recently, I’ve kept a couple of stress balls and a little toy to mess with on those conference calls that give me lots of anxiety.

4. I leave a blanket and house slippers at my desk as well. It makes it feel very homely. But also because the AC gets so cold where my desk is.

5. I tried my best to finish up my Christmas shopping earlier because I haven’t been very good with my money lately… but I feel so good having bought what I needed (I hope i didn’t miss anyone!!!). It’s also a goal of mine to pay off my credit card before I go home for New Years.

6. I am intermittent fasting because I want to keep my weight down. It’s working too, so that’s nice!!! With all the holiday events, I am definitely consuming a lot of food. I drink tea in the mornings (no sugar ever, I’m good with plain tea!), cold-brew with creamer in the afternoons, and water throughout the day.

7. I decorated the house with my husband. It’s so colorful and festive and I’m really happy this Christmas season.

8. We will be taking a trip back home for New Years, and I cannot be more excited. I need to spend quality time with my family (especially my siblings).

9. I take the time every Sunday night to prep our meals for the week. These are just our lunches that we take every day. I know lots of people always say that they have no time, and I’m sure they are very busy people, but I swear! The relief you feel each day knowing you don’t have to wonder what you’re eating for lunch at work or school is the best feeling ever.

You see? I am doing everything I can to just make me feel better, in even the smallest ways possible. What do you guys do to get yourself on a good healthy path? Whether it’s mental, physical, spiritual etc.

Enlighten me.

Happy curl, happy Girl

Signing off,

Curly Island Girl

Removing Toxicity from your Life

It’s coming to the close of 2018. That means that I’ve been blogging for almost a year! I just wanted to log on and talk a little bit about toxic relationships and thoughts. I’ve been actively working towards trying to keep my mind healthy and with that is the start of removing anything toxic in my life.

Toxic relationships can be in the form of lovers, family members, long time friends, coworkers (a job), basically any interaction with people. Its really important to rid that from your life. When I was younger, my mom told me that the people you hang around with will reflect on the way you view life and the type of person you are. I never believed her until I realized in my teen years how toxic some of my friends were. I stopped hanging around with them.

If you had the worst year, odds are it was from the people you’ve been constantly interacting with. I’m hoping if you are reading this, you already cut that out of your life, for the sake of your sanity, of your own family, and of your own soul and happiness. Everyone deserves to find happiness, and if finding it means you have to quit hanging around with your family or cut off your best friend of 15 years, it’s time to do so. Don’t feel bad about it, because as bad as it sounds, it’s okay to be selfish in this way. It’s okay to want to have a life filled with love and joy.

Removing toxicity from your life doesn’t always mean people. It can also turn out to be negative thoughts that make it worse for you. I know in my past post, I brought up what has been grinding me down, here in Oahu. I proactively decided I would go back to reading. I have a couple of unfinished books and one coming in the mail this week that need to be read. I ordered 3 year journals to inspire me to be more creative in my writing and to reflect more on my life and my relationship with my husband. I have also decided to be a little more positive at work, rather than dragging myself around. Don’t get me wrong, I work hard, but a junk work environment doesn’t help. If I can be that little light that my co-workers see every day, I want to be that for them.

I hope to be writing more in the new year!!! You should see more of me (January 1st is my one-year anniversary). I want to thank you all who have been reading my posts. Even if its a small amount of you, and even if you have only read a couple of them, I still am very grateful that I am able to touch someone’s life with words.

Mahalo piha and Mele Kalikimaka,

Happy Curl, Happy Girl

Signing off,

Curly Island Girl