What Marriage is like for a NewlyWed


Marriage is beautiful, in whatever way you would define it. My life completely changed after I got married, literally. I left home and lived in a place I was unfamiliar with, then my husband left me for an entire month (for training). For myself, this marriage has been what many old-timers would call pretty “traditional”. When I got married, I moved from my home with my parents and siblings. My husband and I had never lived together, nor really spent a night together up until that point. I was terrified. We talked about it a lot, before we even got engaged (yes, being together for 6 years before I even got a ring, we had definitely talked about everything), and we really wanted to live with each other. We didn’t know each others habits, we didn’t know how each other slept, etc. It’s different. We barely even spent much time together; we were long distance for 6.5 out of the 7 years that we were dating.

Again, I was terrified that we were not going to be compatible together. A lot of my friends and family did encourage me, knowing full well how in love we were with each other, but they did express some concerns in the beginning. I shared these same concerns. What if we hated the way each other lived? The way we did or did not do the dishes enough. The way we washed the clothes. Or maybe even the way we put our clothes in the laundry.

In the first month after our marriage, we were temporarily living in Washington state. I am a very family-oriented individual, and it was really hard for me to adjust, even if I knew we were coming back to the islands soon. I really enjoyed it. The first month together. I learned about him and his habits, and he learned about me. It was a real trial run, I guess you could call it, even if we technically had already signed our lives away to each other. I enjoyed it! It was amazing.

Now that we are back in the islands, we have our own place, we have vehicles; we are what we would call “adulting”. I mean, he’s been adulting way longer than I have already. He left home right after graduation, and joined the military. But, now I really am at this self-reflective point where every night after work, I just stare at him and thank the Heavens for all the blessings I have received in my life thus far. We are very happy with each other, with the way we live, and the way we work together (which is very well).

Many old-timers may also call this, “The Honeymoon Stage”. It hasn’t been all bliss as people normally would say this stage is, we’ve definitely gotten into arguments, but nothing really serious. It’s mostly me being petty. haha. It is also, most definitely not all unicorns and rainbows, but 90% of the time it is. My husband shows me that he cares, in ways that are not normal. My friends and I call this “The Local Boy” syndrome. Local boys in Hawaiʻi are different. They show their love in different ways, but you can see it and you can feel it. My favorite part about my husband is how handy he is. I swear, he is part mechanic, part-plumber, part-electrician (not so much part-maid though) and part everything else. It’s amazing for me because I can’t do the things he does. But I pull my part with having a job and sharing the cooking and cleaning duties.

Overall, it is beautiful. My marriage is amazing. I think we are doing very well right now as newlyweds, we have lots of support and love from the special people in our lives. I wanna give a huge shoutout and mahalo to our families for being so helpful in our transition to our very own place! We are grateful, and we know how blessed we are.

*If you haven’t heard in recent news of Hurricane Lane, where I live in Oʻahu was not really affected. But our hometown got hit pretty bad with severe rain and flooding. Keep our islands in your thoughts and prayers!

Happy Curl, Happy Girl

Signing off,

Curly Island Girl

Quick Life Update: Settling In

Hi Everyone!!!

I’m officially back in the islands ( I have been for a couple of weeks already)!

My husband and I have been settling in to our new place in Oʻahu. My in-laws flew up from the Big Island to help us get our things together and buy appliances/furniture that we needed. The first weekend at our new apartment, we also attended my husband’s cousin’s wedding in Kapolei. It was absolutely beautiful, and I’m so happy for their new journey as a married couple as well! (We are twinning in this new marriage, haha). His parents left soon after that weekend, and we had our last week before work started, doing all kinds of crazy adult things.

He had to get his truck legal in Hawaiʻi, and I needed get a vehicle (which I did! I named her Taimane; she’s a 2018 Chevy Malibu). After, getting a vehicle I had to get used to driving here. It’s pretty tough because the sheer amount of people living on this tiny island is ridiculous. I’ve been driving back and forth because my friend, Misty Girl, has been flying up here to bring me my boxes from back home and my other friend, Amanda, has been here for about a week and a half, staying in the city next to me. It’s been fun with them! They’ve been my buddies in helping me to learn to drive here. Side Note: I know how to drive, but Big Island doesn’t have any freeways and a lot less people, so it’s not hard to drive there.

This week was my first week of work, and it’s great! I love feeling useful in society, haha. I dress semi-professionally, with slacks and nice blouses, and I actually like dressing this way because I’ve never had a full-time job before. I stay at work longer than my husband, so when I head home (its a 20-30 minute drive, depending on traffic), he’s already home. We are both excited for this weekend, only because we have more time with each other. When we get home, we are both so tired and want to just eat dinner, shower, and go to sleep, so we are lacking time together. It’s fine, but you know, we are still newlyweds. This weekend, I also wanted to go buy more work clothes, and stuff for the apartment (we don’t have a vacuum, help! our floors are looking grim, and we need some night-stands, our phones are sitting on the floor next to our bed sides. So we have a huge shopping list right now, that I hope to check-off this weekend!

I want to seriously get back into a regular schedule of blogging again, but work keeps me really busy, I may just need to wake up a little earlier on days that I do want to post, so I can blog before I get ready for work.

I hope you have a fantastic and beautiful rest of the week!



Happy Curl, Happy Girl

Signing off,

Curly Island Girl